by Lolly Daskal, Executive Coach, Author, Speaker
By and large, tolerance is a good trait. The differences we encounter enrich our lives and organizations. But to attain a successful life and meaningful leadership, we must refuse to tolerate the things that deplete, and ultimately destroy, us.
Start by declaring these things intolerable in yourself and those around you–and see what changes as a result.
1. Dishonesty. Living an honest life allows you to be at peace with others and yourself. Dishonesty imposes a false reality on your life and those around you.
2. Boredom. Successful people are generally exploring something new. Life is too short for inactivity and staying in your comfort zone.
3. Mediocrity. It’s easy, and a constant temptation, to settle for less. But what makes some people stand out is their willingness to make the hard choices that allow a life of greatness.
4. Negativity. Every negative thought keeps you from being your best. If you hear yourself complaining, out loud or to yourself, find a way to shut it down.
5. Toxicity. At work or at home, a toxic environment will literally make you sick. If it doesn’t feel right, if it makes you tired or fills you with dread, cut yourself loose.
6. Disorganization. Clutter and disorder cause stress and affect your emotional and mental well-being. Get rid of what you don’t need and keep everything else where it belongs.
7. Unhealthy anything. Unhealthy food, unhealthy relationship, unhealthy habits–choose what you do wisely. Remind yourself that you deserve better, and then give yourself better.
8. Regrets. We all have regrets, but you can’t move toward your future if you’re dwelling on the past. Learn from it, right any wrongs where you can, and leave it behind.
9. Disrespect. Relationships are at the heart of success, and respect is at the heart of good relationships. Disrespect–whatever the form and whomever it’s directed toward–is one of the most destructive forces you can harbor.
10. Distrust. Distrust often arrives through a succession of little compromises here and there, so be watchful. Focus on building your own integrity and surround yourself with others who do the same.
11. Anger. We all feel anger, and in its place it can move you to action. But holding onto anger is paralyzing and accomplishes nothing. Learn to direct anger toward problems, not people, and then get over it.
12. Control. Don’t worry about the things you can’t control. Focus your energy where it can do good, and learn to let go of the rest.
Pay attention to the difference between the things that are truly positive in your life and the things you just let happen.
Remember, you are the sum of what you tolerate!
Original source: Inc.